What is gay privilege?
Trapped. Suffocating. Idk
21 People On What They Would Tell Their 19-Year-Old Selves
- Jonathan, 55: There is no such thing as “the only one”. You will meet lots of “the ones”. Only commit when the timing is right for the both of you – that can take years for some, and that’s okay.
- Miranda, 24: Drop pre-med.
- Isaac, 48: Deodorant does not count as a shower, and that haircut only looked good on Bon Jovi.
- Anya, 42: Make the conscious decision to be happy, and then stick with it. Society will do everything in its power to convince you that your personal happiness is dependent on something external – beauty, success, wealth, etc. – it isn’t.
- Parker, 55: 60% of the things you think are important now won’t matter a whit to you by the time you reach 50. The trick is to figure out the important 40% and work it.
- Megan, 34: He doesn’t love you, and you will be okay.
- Peter, 58: Don’t let anything stand in your way of taking part (or all) of your junior year abroad. You’ll never again have quite the same opportunity to experience a foreign land, for an extended period of time, in your youth. It is destined to be one of the most memorable aspects of your life.
- Eleanor, 67: Talk less. Listen more.
- Donald, 27: There’s a huge difference between who you want to be and who everyone around you wants you to be. Figure out which is which.
- Camille, 56: Always remember: when falling off a horse, pull your tongue in.
- Jackson, 57: No one knows anything for sure. They’re all just doing the best they can with what they have, just like you.
- Vicki, 47: You’ll never have all the answers, so make every question count.
- Donald, 38: You don’t have to grow up to be the dad you never had.
- Katelyn, 30: Make the most out of college. You will never again be at a place where your only goal is to learn. Learn a lot, learn often, and learn with reckless abandon.
- Joshua, 55: Women love to laugh.
- Annabelle, 38: Drugs are not beautiful, glamorous or opulent. They are not a remedy, a solution, a cure-all, or a cure-anything.
- Colin, 50: You miss so much life when you sleep until 3 PM. Wake up to see sunrises; they are the most stunning of nature’s masterpieces.
- Eleanor, 26: Eating two pints of ice cream won’t make you happy. Neither will sprinting 10 miles. Be nice to yourself.
- Aaron, 52: Don’t forget to ask that girl in the Oberlin library what kind of perfume she’s wearing. You’ll buy it for her in 20 years.
- Scarlett, 54: Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Those that get you will love you, those that don’t, well, their loss. Just remember: Wherever you are, it’s a party.
- Zack, 9: I hope you’re awesome. And be nice to girls.
Yep, we’re going there…Hello again Candice!!
This conversation just happened between me and a straight girl after not responding to ten of her texts...
- Her: So do you want me to erase your number? :(
- Me: If you want. You came on too strong for me.
- Her: Really? I'm sorry I didn't realize... I actually really liked u...Like you gotta understand I never did this before and have no idea how to act...
- Me: I understand. I've been with straight girls before. I just may be too old for you. I'm just not interested.
- Her: *sends multiple texts trying to convince me that we're perfect together*
- Me: I'm not interested, okay? I need someone that's on the same maturity level as me. As well as someone who's on the same intellectual level. Even if it's just sex.
- Her: Oh... Wow ok... I'm really sorry... Can I at least see the pics of you that I was waiting for fora while already? Since I'm not going to be able to get with u...?
- Me: Nah
- Her: *3 texts that can basically be summarized into- Please kari...I am dieing to see ur. Body
- Me: The extent to which you've been pushing me the entire time we've been talking is extremely disrespectful. Cut it out. You're like a 13 year old boy. You can't even spell dying correctly. Just stop.
- Her: Lol kari... I'm texting and not trying to pretend like I'm on a spelling bee... I love how you think I'm intellectually below you. Maybe you should look in a mirror and see who's actually being disrespectful...and judgmental... Especially when I am actually from an extremely intellectual family where my brother is in MIT my dad graduated from Georgie tech My mom from Brandeis
- Me: I was trying to be respectful but you're so pushy. I said numerous times I'm not interested. Goodbye.
- Her: And what's disrespectful is saying that you would do something and then not do it... I.e. Like saying you will send a pic and then don't... Making someone expect something like a pic and don't... U don't need to interested just not disgusting... And rude...
- Me: ...You know that's the exact same argument boys use to justify rape when girls later choose to refuse sex? Also that last sentence literally made no sense. Jesus. I said I'm not interested goodbye.
- Her: Bye bye! You've officially turned into a bitch.
If they don’t reply to your texts — they’re not interested in you.
If they don’t call you — they’re not interested in you.
If they forget your birthday — they’re not interested in you.
If they’re hung up on their ex — they’re not interested in you.
If they’re obsessed with being single — they’re not interested in you.
If they don’t want to meet your friends — they’re not interested in you.
If they don’t want you to meet their friends — they’re not interested in you.
If they don’t ask questions about your life — they’re not interested in you.
If they don’t tell you things about their life — they’re not interested in you.
If they only speak to you when they want to have sex with you — they’re not interested in you.
If they only have sex with you when they’re drunk — they’re not interested in you.
If they say “should we just keep this between us?’ after you have sex with them — they’re not interested in you.
If they don’t have sex with you — they’re not interested in you.
If they can always find a psychobabble rationale about who “I am” or “you are” or “we are” as reason why you can’t be together — they’re not interested in you.
If they have said for more than six months that they would like to be with you “BUT” — they’re not interested in you.
And if you still need convincing — think of it this way. Think of what the real day-to-day of life is taken up by. Life is birthday parties at terrible pubs. Life is losing your credit card and the annual Melbourne Cup sweepstake in the office. Life is hen’s nights, bucks’ nights, sitting on the phone for three hours to get U2 tickets and not getting them, the apartment upstairs flooding your house, interval training, calorie counting, cancer scares, illegal mini cabs, Secret Santa, rail replacement buses and Dido albums. Dogs die, cars crash, bin liners break, contracts end, curtain rails collapse, trains get delayed, football teams lose. Divorce happens and so do earthquakes and so does An Audience With Michael Bublé. Landlords put rent up, phones get stolen and the supermarket often completely runs out of hummus.
Now, taking all of the above into account — you look me dead in the eye and tell me the truth. Do you really have enough spare energy to pursue someone who isn’t interested in you? Do you really want to waste any more time on top of all of that? No. Me neither. So give it up, my friend. It’s a loser’s game. Delete their number. Don’t go on any more dates with them. Stop lurking their Facebook page. Feels good, doesn’t it?” Dolly Alderton (via gaslightgoodbye)
@elliegoulding: Out of everything on my body I’ve managed to tan my scalp. That’s useful